Learning to trust the instincts and intuition you were born with takes a little work on yourself because from a young child we are programmed or condition to do this or that and not do this or that because it has implications. That might have been great when you were a child and you were dependant on your caregivers.
Now that you are an adult and are making your own decision it is important to examine that programming to see if it still serves you. If not it is time to change those bits that no longer serve you AND it can be done because you now have a choice AND the meaning you give those experiences or events in your life can be changed or reframed.
You may be asking yourself why would I want to do that?
Great question and here's the thing..
How you view those events and the meaning you attach to them will determine your values and beliefs and more importantly the choices you will make. Those choices are made in your unconscious mind based on your emotions and your thinking around them.
If you're still with me, they are your drivers and so are very important. It is possible that you are carrying beliefs about things that occurred when you were a child and you were not responsible for them and now you believe in some way that it was your fault.
Like your parents breaking up , abuse of some sort, being betrayed or abandoned just to name a few. In many cases they're not your fault at all , they happened to you and now it's up to you to decide what they mean.
This makes it possible to take the load of yourself and begin trusting your own intuition and self-belief again as it was meant to be. You have everything you need inside you now. You are not broken or incomplete, far from it.
Good news is you can change your beliefs and values if they no longer serve you. You aren't stuck with them.
Focus on what you want and bring those thoughts out into the daylight.
Give them structure and add appropriate emotions to them until they become real and tangible, so you can feel them and tell yourself what it will give you when you have realised that goal or outcome.
Sometimes we have to or need to give ourselves permission to accept our situation, to forgive ourselves or anybody that we feel has wronged us or in some way hurt us and then we can move on.
Not to forget what happened.
It is to allow us to move on to a different perspective of the event(s) and what we choose them to mean now.
It is for own own benefit and not the person who may have done"X".
It creates more space for other experiences to come in... specifically the ones we want.
What we focus on is what we get more of... guess what if you're still focused on that old stuff? Yes more of it. STOP IT NOW!
Love yourself and be kind to yourself.
Believe in Yourself.
Are you distracted easily, lose your focus and have trouble staying on track?
Then this post is for you.
Life is a series of choices and your journey and the quality of your experience is determined by the accumulative affect of those choices.
Focus on what you want means to have a purpose and work towards your goals or outcome.
If you focus on what you do not want then you will get more of it.
So if that's you STOP IT NOW!
How do you maintain your focus?
Look at what's important for you and find a big reason why you want it.
Give your options a rating of 1-10 with 10 very important.
Go with an 8 or higher as important.
If things go wrong or do not come out how you wanted , revise your goals accept the feedback as a lesson and move on.
Look at your goals daily and remember why you are doing it. For what purpose is a great question to ask your self.
The past is done finished and the future has not even happened yet.
Being present is where you can do and achieve the most or best results in your life.
Have fun with that and if you need any help give Colin a call 0419568043
Having trouble reaching your goals?
Have lots on your to do list however they seem to be just out of reach or you fall short on completing them or following through.
Perhaps it's your strategy when yo first set your goals.
I have a system that will speed up the process and improve your chances of success in achieving your goals.
Its called SMART goals
and although its been around for awhile , how you plan and execute the steps is the key to success.
Let's dive in;
Specific: the more detailed and specific you can be about what you want to achieve the more likely your brain can identify and bring that goal to reality.
Get it down in black and white and out of your head.
Measurable: You have to know how you are progressing on your goal and when you have achieved it.
Achievable: It has to be possible for you to achieve this goal.
Realistic: It has to be within your reach to achieve this goal
Timed: means having a deadline by which it will be completed. This gives momentum and accountability to achieve that goal.